Are you or have you been in an abusive, unhealthy relationship? If so, you could be carrying around wounds that are affecting you much deeper than you even realize. Not letting go of those past wounds will keep you in bondage and will affect every area of your life. Your family- your job- your friendships- people will begin to notice your reactions to situations and will become concerned. Don't let the actions of your past, and for some maybe the present, dictate your feelings or your reactions. Denial is a hallmark of abuse. Be truthful and honest with yourself!!! Admit the abuse and recognize the damage that has been done. I was verbally and emotionally abused for many years in my marriage. I was a minister's wife- had a beautiful home- nice cars- nobody would believe what I was going through so I kept it hidden- and kept it quiet but it almost destroyed me. You cannot let it destroy you- You should seek professional help and guidance. There is no one-size-fits-all prescription for healing your emotions. Find a support group- reach out to a pastor (if your pastor doesn't believe that abuse can happen in his church contact me!!!) Pastors, church leaders and church members vary in their ability to give support to men AND women in difficult marriages/relationships.
Soak in God's Presence and truth. God invites us into His presence and transforms us by the renewing of our minds (Rom 12:2) Spend time in God's Word- prayer- worship- and fellowship. It may be difficult for you to spend a lot of time in prayer or studying the Word- it could be your emotions are so damaged you cannot do it. That's ok!!! Do what you can and trust God with the rest and reach out for help.......'
