Inner rawness: there is often a sense of inner rawness and hurt that does not seem to go away.
Irritability: it is easy to become irritable with others, even if they are not doing anything wrong!
Little or no tolerance: there is a low tolerance issue with others, where we expect and demand from them.
Feelings always rising up: feelings of anger, hate, resentment, etc. seem to "rise up" within us at the slightest offense from others.
Overly sensitive about an event in your past: if there are events in your past which causes you to become sensitive or angry, or even cause you to lash out, then it is likely revealing a deep emotional wound tied in with that event or memory.
Hard to forgive: it becomes difficult, if not impossible to love and forgive others. It can also be hard to forgive and love yourselves. It can even be hard to forgive and love God, even though He has done nothing wrong against you!
Hard to feel loved: it is hard to clearly see and realize the love of others and God in your life. You may be surrounded by people who love you, but it can be difficult to fully feel and receive that love. There seems to be a wall that blocks the flow of love into your life.
Lashing out: when there is an inner wound that has festered, it becomes easy to lash out or have sudden outbursts of anger, hate, resentment, etc. You may find it easy to lash out at people who love you and have done you no harm.
Feelings of anger towards God: when you are wounded, it is easy to blame God for your troubles and hardships. This is the last thing that you want to do when seeking inner healing, because it virtually puts a wall in your mind that can block the healing power of the Holy Spirit. Although He desires to heal your wounds, He will not override your freewill, and if you hold hate in your heart against Him, it can block His efforts to heal your wounds.
Self-hate: many times, when you suffer hurt from past abuse, you begin to think that perhaps what happened to us, was deserved because of something we did. This is not true. Abuse is never acceptable, even if a child was being out of order. Parental love disciplines and corrects, but never abuses.
Easily frustrated: because of an inner turmoil that an inner wound cause, it is easy to become frustrated with everyday chores and responsibilities.
Escapism: as a result of inner turmoil, it is easy to want to escape or suppress reality. This can be in the form of overeating, drinking, smoking, porn, spending binges, etc. When we indulge in escapism, addictions can form, and open the door to spirits of addiction, which makes the addictions virtually impossible to break.
Cutting: a person who is a cutter usually has an alter-ego inside and are holding much pain and needs to release that pain; or they honestly feel that they deserve the pain (self-hate/religious bondage).
Retaliation urges: because of built-up hate and anger as a result of unforgiveness, if we have a festering inner wound, we will find it easy to retaliate or snap back at those who offend us or step on our toes.
Irresponsible behavior: inner pain has a way of consuming a person's mind, and eventually this can take on a careless approach to life. It is hard to feel good about ourselves if we have an inner wound, and if we do not feel good about ourselves, it will begin to show in our lifestyle.
Irrational expectations of others: we, who have been wounded, may set high expectations for those around us. We feel that others ought to hold up unrealistic standards and are very intolerable to any mistakes made. We find it hard to forbear (put up with) one another as the Bible commands us. (see Colossians 3:13).
Perfectionism: a person who has an emotional wound may also be performance driven. Perhaps you feel like no matter what you did, you could never please a parent or authority figure. Later on, in life, that “rejection wound” causes you to be a performer to the point you are never satisfied and burned out by your efforts.
Feelings of hopelessness: This is also a common result of unresolved inner wounds. Since the love of God is blocked in your life, it becomes difficult to see why He would love or care for you, and therefore you become an easy target for feelings of hopelessness.
Drivenness: when you suffer from an emotional wound, it can create a sense of void in our life's meaning, thus driving us to find meaning and purpose and happiness. This could be in the form of college degrees, careers, financial success, etc. Instead of appreciating the person who God has made (YOU!), we find ourselves chasing what we think will bring true happiness and purpose to our life.
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder or OCD: Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) often involves emotional wounds that were never healed. It is not a mental disorder or disease… it is a "spiritually rooted bondage" in the person’s mind that needs to be uprooted. This is especially true with people who have bondages to self-hate, self-resentment, self-unforgiveness, etc. basically demonic torment brought on by a person’s bondages to fear and shame. Those affected may experience thoughts being ‘pushed’ through their mind that they would normally never think (completely against their true nature), or they may experience a strong pulling on their thoughts in a certain direction. They may even hear voices inside their mind or in some other way sense that something is not right. A terrific way to describe it, is to imagine a magnet in your mind that is pulling your thoughts a certain direction, despite the fact that the real you hate those thoughts. It feels like you are sharing your mind with another spirit that you totally disagree with.
Hostility towards God, self, and others: Because of bound up emotions, you tend to feel hostile towards God, or other people in your life. This is usually rooted in a form of bitterness against God for not preventing something from happening to you, bitterness against somebody who has wronged or harmed you emotionally, or bitterness against yourself for failures into which you have fallen.
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